Why are women advised to play hard to get when so many men are afraid of rejection?

This is a very interesting question! The truth of the situation is that as much as some men don’t like to get rejected the main masculine overwhelming desire for a chase possibly resulting in a conquest over rides this. It all goes back to caveman times really, the hunter nature coming out in men, but in this day and age with women being just as powerful as men the boundaries have all become a bit blurred. If a man really likes you, he will come after you, it just like when you “need” that new pair of shoes/ new dress/ holiday you will do whatever you can to find the money to pay for them!!


However, I would never advise a woman to play hard to get, men do need some encouragement if they are making the effort! In my 7 step dating strategy (click here to download for free) I discuss rather than playing hard to get why not just create a life that you love, so when he asks you out you actually do have to check your busy schedule. It is a bit of a sorry state of affairs if you have to pretend to be busy when you are not! Plus you will generally feel happier if you are living a fabulous life and this will come across when meeting someone new.

As for the rules regarding getting in touch well the book “It’s Just A Date” by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt recommends letting the man know you enjoyed your first date and then leaving it up to him to ask for a second one. They say under no circumstance contact him until he has been in touch to ask you out again. After all isn’t it better to leave him wanting more rather than being bombarding him with messages potentially rushing him into something he might not be ready for or sure he wants yet. Men are frail creatures, they can easily freak out! Then they advise after the second date it all relaxes a bit and it’s fine to get in touch, just be aware still of not going over the top as it much better to leave men wanting more and wondering if they can actually get it!

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