When is it ok to mention you not comfortable with his interaction with his ex?

All you can do really is to be honest here and speak about it openly if it is affecting you. Compassion is also needed; if he has just come out of the relationship it might be necessary for there still to be contact. It can take a while of talks to come out of a long term relationship so being understanding about this is important. Saying this he also needs to be aware if it is effecting you and to respect your feelings too.

When having discussions like this speak from the heart and explain without accusing your concerns and worries, rather than blaming him for making you feel a certain way just explain how you feel. Then it’s up to him to reassure you and make sure you are kept in the loop. There isn’t really any need for the ins and outs of their relationship unless you want to torment yourself you just need to respect each others feelings in this.


If on the other hand and they have been apart for a long time and their friendship is affecting you then ask yourself why? Do you genuinely feel there is something romantic between them or are your own insecurities playing up? It might be good to try to make friends with the ex, to share experiences with them both rather than getting cross and they going off and doing things alone.

There is no reason why you can’t all be friends if you put your insecurities aside. Again if you are feeling insecure an open honest non confrontational conversation from the heart explaining how you feel with your partner and then leaving it up to him to make you feel secure would be a good idea. If he totally ignores your feelings then perhaps it might be time to question what you are doing with him. If you really suspect something else might be going on and he does nothing to prove you wrong then is that behavior you want to put up with?

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