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Mon, 21 Sep 2009 07:10:00 +0100

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Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:50:00 +0100

Relationship Patterns

Thu, 27 Aug 2009 13:30:00 +0100

Do you attract same kind of people or situations into your life? It is very common for us to find ourselves in almost the exact same scenario in terms of relationships just with a different person! These patterns can sometime hold us back from finding what we really want but sometimes we donât even realise we are doing them or how they have come about. Awareness is the key to breaking them and freeing yourself up to find the relationship you really want.

Ticks all the boxes but something is still missingâ¦

Mon, 01 Jun 2009 06:00:00 +0100

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Since last writing I have been dating one of the other guys from the site, John, and am feeling like I am getting myself into a bit of a pickle. It all started off well, he is a lovely guy, not bad looking, we have loads in common butâ¦â¦there just isn't any passion there, no energy at all. I have a big thing about energy, I like a guy to be spontaneous and fun to be with, I also like there to be chemistry but it just doesn't seem to be happening with John. I mean we hadn't even kissed properly, if you know what I mean, until date 7 and that was when I could take it no longer and had to bring up the fact that we hadn't!!! I mean there is taking things slow and grinding to a halt. This seemed to liven things up a bit but he still just seems a bit flat to me. I know I should probably end it now but he is a great guy and really does have so much about him that I want in a man so it feels a bit wrong to end it just yet. Every date we go on is exactly the kind of thing I like to do, weâve been shopping, to Jamie Oliverâs restaurant, to watch a band, to watch comedy and even to Borough Market, which I love. I'll give it a couple more dates just in case it's a case of him being shy!

Hidden Ambivalence

Thu, 21 May 2009 12:50:00 +0100

If you are single and wanting to be in a relationship, how much do you actually want one and are you doing anything to find one? Can you see very clear benefits to staying single? Ambivalence around wanting a relationship is one thing that can actually hold us back from meeting someone if we are not aware of it. Generally single people fit into 2 groups, both might say â I want to be in a relationshipâ but one really means it and the other values something else equally or more importantly than being with someone. For example they might value highly their single lifestyle, their career, their freedom, ability to keep things to themselves or to avoid pain.

First Date Doâs and Donâts

Thu, 21 May 2009 10:10:00 +0100

Why canât I get beyond the first date?

Firstly, donât panic. There are some charming rogues out there, who unfortunately apply the same principles to dating as they might to bird watching or train spotting. It ainât the quality of the dates; itâs the quantity of the dates themselves. They just canât help moving onto the next âchallengeâ and itâs the pulling that counts, not the date itself â whether you have been to bed together or not. All very superficial, but thereâs a fair few of âem out there.

Major breakthrough!

Wed, 01 Apr 2009 00:00:00 +0100

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OK major breakthrough since last writing. I finally reached my limit with the whole Ben situation, I had the realisation that I am just never going to meet anyone new until I let go of him, perhaps Psycho Phil was a little bit right, although god only knows how he knew. After thinking about how to do that and speaking to friends I came to the conclusion I had to tell him how I felt, so at least I would know either way. I took me days to pluck up the courage but eventually I got the opportunity after we were left alone after work drinks one night.

The best thing happened to me today..

Sun, 01 Mar 2009 00:00:00 +0100

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The best thing happened to me today, I was leaving for work this morning and this guy started chatting to me on the way to the tube, he was gorgeous!!! He said I had made his morning and that I am beautiful, how lovely! Perhaps he still had sleep dust still in his eyes, ha ha. Anyway it turns out he lives in the next road from me that I have to walk down every day to the tube, so hoping I might see him again. Men are irritating sometimes, why didnât he just ask for my number.....! Whatever it was a great start to the day.

How can women work out what is going on in men's heads?

Wed, 04 Feb 2009 14:30:00 +0100

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How can women work out what is going on in men's heads?

For example; I had a date on Sunday, he then waits a week to get in touch, i.e. Saturday, texts at 3pm saying, sorry late notice, but friend blown me out, fancy dinner tonight, or if not, then Monday? I was busy, so we are going to speak probably tomorrow, still waiting for him to phone me, maybe he is too shy to phone, oh I don't know, I just wish I understood them?

Urgh itâs that dreaded time of the year again!

Sun, 01 Feb 2009 00:00:00 +0100

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Urgh itâs that dreaded time of the year again when all single people pretend not to be bothered by the fact there is this huge looming day of love ahead set to remind us that we are not skipping around like bunnies in a loving relationship. Actually even if I was in a relationship it is all pretty cringy, that whole table for 2 things with a restaurant packed full of other couples all gazing into each otherâs eyes and eating off the âlovers menu with a free glass of champagneâ bluuurrr! Also how do you know if they have really gone to the effort for you because they love you or because they will be made to feel bad if they donât, itâs all a bit contrived for my liking?